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1. # 1 Says:
   June 19th, 2007 at 1:00 am

   A male friend of mine recently told me that he’d rather date Baltimore women than DC women because Baltimore women have lower standards and are easier to satisfy. I must admit that this bothered me. If it is true, why?

2. # 2 Says:
   June 19th, 2007 at 8:54 am

   Wow… I’m not surprised by the comment made. I know for a fact that DC chicks are very materialistic. They need the Gucci and the Prada to define who they are and what they’re about. There are a few B-more chicks who need that validation as well but these are two different lifestyles. But to each man his own.

3. # 3 Says:
   June 19th, 2007 at 10:51 am

   While sub-cultures tend to produce prevailing characteristics in groups of people who live, work, worship, and recreate together; let us be careful not to generalize based on a limited amount of experiences. Furthermore, let us also seek to speak well of our sisters - even those who have been misguided in hopes that our calling them by their rightful name will awaken the queen within them.

4. # 4 Says:
   June 21st, 2007 at 7:40 pm

   Well, well, well… D.C. women are supposedly more sophisticated than their sisters in the nearby Baltimore. And the sisters in Baltimore are much easier to run game on. It’s funny to me that people would even have thoughts like that. But I’m not surprised.

   Black folks from Houston are often talking down on people from Dallas, saying that they are ghetto. And People in Dallas are always saying that people in Houston are country.

   The truth is that folks from Houston and Dallas are basically cousins when it comes to class, style, sophistication, and status. So, both groups need to shut up and stop being hypercritical of the other. It’s time to stop being so quick to point out someone’s supposed flaws. That energy can be used to point out what is good and beautiful.

   You know what I bet? Sisters in Washington D.C. ain’t too much more fly than the women in Baltimore. Having a couple of designer purses and expensive weave in your hair doesn’t exactly classify you as being stylish or classy.

   And you know what I also bet? Sisters in Washington D.C. are probably just as untogether when it comes to being in a relationship as Baltimore women. Just a guess…

   Broke is broke… And broke always looks like broke… Oppressed is oppressed… And oppressed folks always look oppressed… Disenfranchised is disenfranchised… And disenfranchised people always look disenfranchised…

   It’s ridiculous to compare two groups that are facing the same economic and social struggles.

5. # 5 Says:
   June 21st, 2007 at 11:35 pm

   I think I was really asking a broader question, whetherour individual or collective standards are low? Do we settle for people that don’t meet our standards? If so, is it because we believe it’s the best we can do? Or that pickins are slim? Or fear of being alone? Or that we will never find one who meets our standards? Are we dating and marrying men we truly want, or just settling for the ones that want us? Are our men choosing us because we don’t demand much? We’re easy or convenient?

6. # 6 Says:
   June 22nd, 2007 at 7:29 pm

   Okay… I got your point now. Hmmm… It depends on what age group of women we’re talking about.

   If we are talking about sistas over 30 and 40, I put money on it that the standards slip down with every year. When you stare alone in the face, many sistas decide to turn their gaze from being alone to being with someone. It’s not a pleasant thought. But I know it to be true.

   I know beautiful, college educated sistas that decide to go with a man that is clearly not in their league, financially/intelectually/emotionally/spiritually, just because they want someone so bad.

   Sadly enough, even those relationships that were built on “just settling” often do not work. Unequal yokes will hardly ever make it as a good relationship.

   I’m going to think about this a little more and hit you guys back.

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